Teresa says her husband never sits and watches TV with her or takes her out. She thinks her husband Bob doesn’t love her. Well Bob says of course I love her; I always cut the grass, shovel the snow, and take the trash out. She doesn’t even have to ask me to do it. What’s the problem here? They don’t know each other’s love language. Teresa likes quality time, that’s what makes her feel loved. And Bob shows his with Acts of Service, He feels by DOING things he is showing love.
What’s your spouse’s primary love language? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch. (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages) Is yours the same or different? If you don’t’ know, you should really find out. It will help you understand your spouse better and they will understand you better as well. I suggest you get this book and do a study together and find out!